People Change, Situations Change

Sometimes you wonder, how on earth can 'friends forever' really be forever. My mum jogged my memory the other day, back to that instance of childhood- the one during primary school. She had once asked me and my group of friends ' you're going to diff high schools, are you guys still going to be such good friends, and keep in contact and be friends forever still?' Without hesitation, we all yelled ' YES! OF COURSE! ' because at such a small age, you really cannot expect a child to know the difference between forever and for now.

So what actually changes. Many. The friends themself change, being in a new environment and only able to rely on those that are around them every day. Time changes- time draws people further apart once you havent seen them for a long time. And, well. The environment changes. You may be encountering a new style of friends- ones that actually share more similar interests to you, or those who you prefer because they are more socially interactive. Whatever it may be, thats the thing. That once in a childhood's sense of 'forever' has changed. And no matter how you try, things cannot change unless both people are determined to.

So now lets talk about determination. What if people's ambitions have changed, causing their determination to fall upon other areas. It may not be that sense of friendship that one's lingering on to. Either way, you cannot just say soemthing if your heart does not follow. It may not make sense now but really, lets give an example.

-----------> you can say to yourself you love someone but what is love if its only selfishly centred around yourself? Have you taken into account whether the other person is willing to accept this love? Have you taken into account that what you're doing may affect other aspects? So how about asking the other person, ' will you love me forever? Because thats all i need', a quite rhetorical question in my opinion because either way, it will hurt. Lets say 'yes', do you really mean it? How can you promise sucha thing of 'forever' without even thinking about it for a minute. Okay lets say...'no'. well im sure you know how that ends up...

Quite a amount of word vomit recently but i've realised no matter whether i try or not, the results are still the same. So why try? Because we want to keep moving on in life but whether the other around us accept it or not, at least we've tried.